As I get ready for Christmas I think of my mother, who taught me how to give a party. She had many rules for making things run smoothly but her cardinal rule, that is, one that must never be broken, is that nobody should be alone at Christmas and there is always room for another place at the table. She gathered her friends who had no family in town for Christmas dinner, and always made sure there were young children because sometimes Santa would show up. All year she hunted for just the right gift for each person, like a china cow pitcher for our friend Jim Jackson, a dairy farmer. I remember one year in particular, 1970. My brother, Alan, re-injured his old football knee while skiing. He didn’t fall; his knee just “went out.” I was with him--I looked back up the hill for him which was odd, because he was a much better and faster skier and was always ahead of me. I saw him wince as he tried to put weight on his bad leg. I’m ashamed to say I sent ...