Our Thoughts and Prayers
What do we say when we see someone suffering? What is there to say? Certainly not, "I know just how you feel," or, "don't worry, time will heal," or, "It was God's will." Often we say, "Our thoughts and prayers are with you." And what does that mean, and what good does it do? I've been thinking about prayer since I saw and wrote about Barbara Lubliner's beautiful prayer flags last week. I think a lot about prayer, especially at the times when I’m supposed to be praying and can’t figure out how to do it. I was talking with my brother, Alan, about a person we both knew. “He’s so pretentious,” I said, “He prays with his head thrown back and his arms up in the air, just like a televangelist.” “How did you know what he's doing if you're praying?” Alan asked me. Theologian Frederick Beuchner has said that if all we ever did was give thanks that would be enough for a lifetime of prayer. That may be true, and I've...